Making & Managing Transitions


Let's face it. There are a lot of people making transitions out there these days. Maybe you're one of them. A new job or career, a new relationship. Whatever it is you are not alone. In 2012, I made a huge transition from my life as a law enforcement officer to business owner. Something I had never been successful at. In fact, my first business venture flopped and me & my husband lost all the money we had put into it. Big zeroes in the bank account. It was scary and it was something that affected me deeply. Maybe you can relate? 

Over the years, I learned that there are a few keys to making and managing transitions. Once you learn and master these, I'm telling you, transitions become a rollercoaster ride of FUN!


Get some. I'm not trying to be flippant here. If you are someone who has a hard time finding patience with anything you do, you've got to learn to have it. If things didn't go according to plan in my law enforcement world, people sometimes got hurt. Do you think I didn't bring this same mindset into my transition into business owner? Of course, I did. And it didn't go very well, especially in the communication department. My coach would always tell me to "Get off my own back" and B-R-E-A-T-H-E. You see what I forgot was that in this new venture called business I had to learn new skills, new ways to communicate. It took daily purposeful and consistent practice to learn how to do my new business. Are you allowing yourself to be patient as you learn? 


This is probably the #1 thing that will get you through your transition. Taking consistent, daily action with your learning process will make your transition in whatever it is you are transitioning into easier. I'm going to bust on myself here. After transitioning out of law enforcement I had to learn how to work a normal schedule. Like with other people...If you've ever worked shift work you know what I'm talking about. There's no consistency week to week, month to month. 

Since consistency is so important, I'm throwing in a video here that will give you some tips for finding consistency:

It's part of my paid course, but I want to share it with you because I know it's hard to navigate new things. So, it's here so you can get started immediately.


As with anything, if you don't stay persistent & consistent with it, whatever it is, it will fade off into the sunset. Whether you've got a new responsibility at work or even with dating. Yep. I know a bunch of ladies who go out on a date and it doesn't go well, so they stop looking at their site for others who are waiting to meet them. Eventually, years go by and it's like WAIT! I don't even look like that anymore. They never update their profiles. Now I know that's more of a funny example, but where have you be lacking persistent action with that new skill you need to learn?


As a whole we need to do a better job managing our disappointments. I'm not saying not to take time after something goes wrong to get things together. It took a long time for me and my husband to bounce back from our business going under. We cried, we were angry, we felt like failures. But life went on and we both decided that despite going out of business we were going to look onward to the next opportunity that could change the way we wanted to work the remainder of our careers.

No one wears a suit of armor, disappointments just don't bounce off you. There are emotions involved. So, the next time a transition doesn't go as planned or you make the transition and the proverbial rug gets pulled out from under you, take the time, feel the emotions, then create a strategy to get back up and keep pressing forward. After all Rome was not built in a day.


I left this as the last point, but maybe it should be the first. It's a phrase from my mentor Brendon Burchard. When was the last time you celebrated even the smallest of wins? I bet it's been a while. We are so quick to judge, to compare. It's us vs them. Do you believe that your journey is uniquely yours? It took me a long time to figure that out. Think about it. Let's say you are in sales. Do you find yourself comparing your performance with the person who keep winning "Employee of the month.” You say to yourself, "Oh, well she's been doing this a lot longer, or he's friends with the boss so he gets brownie points, or how about this one, "I'm not good at (you fill in the blank)." We've all done it at one time or another. But I'm here to tell you, if you don't honor your journey, the things you learned along the way, the people who helped you, the teeny tiny baby steps you took to tackle what seemed to be the biggest challenge of your life. If you don't honor that, it's going to be lonely at the top and it's going to wear on you each step of the way. 

So, give yourself a break, get off your own back, honor you struggle, be persistent, stay in the game, and have patience, the faith and belief that your transition will work out.

I wish you the best in your journey. We want to know your thoughts so please leave a comment below.

Category: Courage


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